Dating? Beware the Holidays

Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc for Dating Coaching, or call 817-734-1471.

TAKING THE PULSE OUT THERE FOR THOSE OF US WHO ARE DATING

I have coached daters (men and women both) for decades and I want to give you a warning about this time of year -- between mid-November and Christmas.

On the one hand, single men will go into heat (as it were) and be beating the bushes for a woman, any woman. This is not a particularly 'discriminatory' time of the year. They are lonely. It's cold and they want to snuggle. It's the holidays and they want (as they call it to me) "that female energy" to give them the feeling of a home and all that other good stuff. (What stuff? Just look at the dwelling of the average bachelor ... it's soooooo sad.)

Here's the other thing that will happen. If your relationship is relatively new (let's say less than 6 months, or at least not 'tried and tested' and no ring has been put on it), one or the other of the couple is likely to break and run.

Why?

Just because everyone's stressors go up at this time of year, and (1) you might be overwhelmed and feel like the only thing you can dump is the relationship; or (2) you might just get anxious, stressed, and attribute it (arbitrarily) to "the relationsip."

So, what to do? First of all, knowledge is power. Expect the unexpected. Well here, let me make you a list.

THE TOP 10 THINGS TO EXPECT WHEN YOU'RE DATING AND IT'S "THE HOLIDAYS"

10. A totally inappropriate and disappointing Christmas gift -- and that includes no gift at all, and, worse than that - a ring, but not a diamond!!! (Come on guys - get a clue.)

9. Your SO will have trouble with the ex and/or the kids which will "ruin" the whole thing.

8. One or the other of you will get sick, I mean physically, and decide it's the fault of the relationship, and split.

7. You will each over-react to something you will later realize is inconsequential (or you'll realize it now, if you get Dating Coaching from me).

6. He or she won't invite you to a family gathering, which will hurt you deeply.

5. She will cry a lot.

4. He or she won't invite you to their Office Party and you will feel they are (1) ashamed to be seen with you at work, (2) not reall in to you; (4) secretly relieved but still a little worried.

3. She'll over-read every little thing you do and drive you nuts with, "Is something wrong?", "Are you mad at me?", "Are you going to break up with me?"

2. You will feel like leaving the planet, not just the relationship over things like what to invite him/her to (or not), what gift to buy (or not).

And the #1 thing to expect -- HE WILL TELL YOU HE NEEDS SPACE. (Did I need to tell you that?)

Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc for Dating Coaching, or call 817-734-1471.
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