Is Sarah Palin the woman for you?

Is Sarah Palin the woman for you?

Why am I asking this on a dating site.

Probably like you, I'm on a lot of social email lists - you know where the funnies, videos, and political stuff gets passed around.




And there's a certain group list that just can't get off Sarah Palin - sending photos of her holding fish, dressing moose, etc. with comments like "the ideal woman."

Lets generalize and say there are "types" of women, okay? There's the tomboy, the lady, the intellectual, the arm candy, the mom, and so forth.

When you're perusing the dating sites, or talking to men you meet when you are out and about you need to figure out just what the man is looking for in a woman. I CAN HELP YOU.

Obviously these men sending the emails about Sarah Palin are not imagining going to the opera with her, raising a family with her, helping her weed her rose garden, or snuggling in front of the fireplace with her. They're picturing an activity partner - a woman who will go fishing and hunting with them, camp out, not complain about dirty restrooms, dig the Harley convention and so forth.

Now what are you after? Here are some questions to answer (and to discover about the man you're dating).

Read this list. Ponder. Then let me help you find the right partner for this.

• Activity partner - boating and fishing and skiing with him, no makeup, must be doing ACTIVE things which generally do not involve emotional interchange or conversation. Except for how best to dress that moose, or where the best quail will be.


• Travel partner - not the same thing. You want to take trips a couple of times a year. Could be transatlantic on the Queen Mary, or backpacking in Paris hostel. Your focus, what you live for is to take those trips! You want to see the world!


• Intellectual companionship - you read and learn and discuss, and so does he. Life is about learning and interesting conversation is the best activity there is and the most important thing in a partner.


• Parenting - you want more kids and to raise a family


• Marriage. You want someone to join with you in all ways and build a new life together. For better or for worse.


• Romance! Not at all the same thing. You want the "highs" - the infatuation, the sweet words and constant affirmations, when it's fun and easy and sexually exciting. The intoxication of the "up" side of "falling in love."


• Soul-mate. You tell me what this means! Like Tristan and Isolde, like the people in Verdi's opera, and Robert Browning's poetry. Or like Sarkovsky said (though it wasn't true, and often the things said aren't) - "We will not, indeed we do not know how to part."


• Friends. Lower tone. Pals, buddies. Emotions and sex not that intense and not the most important thing. You know...FRIENDS. Hanging out. Doesn't have the physical-activity thing of "activity partner."


• Affair. You do not intend to get emotionally involved. You do not intend for it to last. You meet infrequently. It's in the moment. No plans need be made and no strings attached.
  
• Sugar Daddy/Arm Candy. It's all about who'se got the toys. You want a rich man who will support you and give you things. He wants arm candy.