I am working with a man now who found the love of his life over a year ago. The trouble is that after he met her and they went together for a while and he was sure of his feelings, he did what guys do. He went into the cave. From her point of view - he just disappared.
What happened is, he had the plan in his mind. An action plan. In order to make his new love happen, he had to go back and finalize his divorce, which he hadn't taken care of several years ago.
So, to his new love's way of thinking - he disappeared.
He asks me, "But doesn't she know I had to finish the business of the divorce?"
No! She didn't. Why? Because he didn't say it. He just went off to do it.
Guys - remember to put words around your actions. And to do what you say you will do. That's one way a woman knows what's going on, and how she checks things out. She wants to make sure what you say (when you say it) isn't just "empty words."
The great thing about this romance is that she has agreed to take him back -- with reservations. She doesn't trust the relationship with him now, so he is working to win her trust back. But the important this is that she is willing to give him a second chance. They have started at the beginning again and are going slower this time.
What is love? Love, ultimately, is trust.
I WANT TO KNOW WHAT LOVE IS ... FOREIGNER
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Bravo for you - I love reading the success stories of Dating coaches - because - one man at a time - you are making this a better place for
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