Dating is Worth It

If you haven't tried, you haven't lived.
People tell me all the time that it's too hard these days, it takes too much work, the rejection gets to be too much, there isn't any true love out there.

This is nonsense!

Yes, it's confusing, it's hard work, it requires committment and effort, but yes, too, it's worth whatever it takes. The fact that it IS hard, is why I'm here. Let me show you the ropes, spoof up your profile, heklp you get the right photo, choose the right online sites for you to join, encourage you when it seems impossible and celebrate with you when it finally qoeka out.

And remember this -- it's 100% rejection until it works out, and that applies to 100% of daters. So, you aren't alone. You especially aren't alone if you let me be your Dating Coach.

Take a look at this great video clip, and refresh your energy and committment to find that one special person for yourself.

Let Susan Dunn the Dating Coach, help you.


Susan Dunn is the DC Dating Coach.
Available for coaching by phone nationally and internationally. Susan Dunn has been the dating coach for hundreds of successful daters. Susan has coached singles of all ages - dating over 50 is one specialty. Email Susan Dunn the Dating Coach at sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Dating and He Gets Weird ... how to interpret

Toxic Man/Woman v. Toxic Behaviors

It comes up a lot in dating. Someone gets squirrely right at first and says "stupid" things. Someone clams up and disappears for a while. You take him to a party and he can't seem to socialize. She loses her temper over something you consider inconsequential.

Let's face it dating someone new is nerve-wracking, and the more you like them, the worse it's likely to be. I know you know what I'm talking about.

The thing to figure out is if this is a recurring pattern for this person, or a temporary behavior because of the stress of dating (or a new job, or something else putting pressure on them).

In other words, does he get nervous and take a break from dating for a week or two because of the intensity of the dating situation ... or is he the kind who will disappear any and every time the going gets rough should you become a couple one day?

Let me help you figure this out. That's what Susan Dunn the Dating Coach is here for. It isn't easy dating in today's world. I've coached hundreds of people, and men and women of all ages are confused about what's going on and don't know what to do.

Email me and lets get started - sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Is there love for you?

I am working with a man now who found the love of his life over a year ago. The trouble is that after he met her and they went together for a while and he was sure of his feelings, he did what guys do. He went into the cave. From her point of view - he just disappared.

What happened is, he had the plan in his mind. An action plan. In order to make his new love happen, he had to go back and finalize his divorce, which he hadn't taken care of several years ago.

So, to his new love's way of thinking - he disappeared.

He asks me, "But doesn't she know I had to finish the business of the divorce?"

No! She didn't. Why? Because he didn't say it. He just went off to do it.

Guys - remember to put words around your actions. And to do what you say you will do. That's one way a woman knows what's going on, and how she checks things out. She wants to make sure what you say (when you say it) isn't just "empty words."

The great thing about this romance is that she has agreed to take him back -- with reservations. She doesn't trust the relationship with him now, so he is working to win her trust back. But the important this is that she is willing to give him a second chance. They have started at the beginning again and are going slower this time.

What is love? Love, ultimately, is trust.

I WANT TO KNOW WHAT LOVE IS ... FOREIGNER

Tough Dating Questions

One of the things that comes up when we're dating is the subject of exes. Former dates, lovers, partners and spouses.

How do we deal with this?

Well, the less said the better.

If you were hooked up with a Nobel prize winner or a super model, the person is going to feel like they can't compete. If you were hooked up with a loser, they're going to wonder what's wrong with you, your choices, and therefore, what THEY are doing there.

Work with your Dating Coach to come up with responses that don't get you in trouble from the get-go.

We've all got exes. Maybe it's best to leave it at that??

Contact me for coaching if you would like help with this complicated topic - or others that come up, like:

• You've been married TWO times?
• How long do you plan to keep working?
• Wait a minute ... you've been single 20 years??
  
• How come you never got married (at all)?
• Your marriage only lasted two years?
• Are you willing to relocate?
• We live 500 miles apart. The distance is too great.

Everyone's looking. There's a partner for everyone. So call me and get back on track! 817-741-7223, or email to sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Who Took the Courtship Out of Dating for Marriage?

From the mail bag today. Let's take a look at what it's saying.

When we are dating, we are trying to return many of these behaviors, because they worked. In fact, we might add there,

Who took the courtship out of dating for marriage??

The blog is about seniors, but we could just say

"WHO TOOK ..."

The melody out of music,
The pride out of appearance,
The courtesy out of driving,
The romance out of love,
The commitment out of marriage,
The responsibility out of parenthood,
The togetherness out of the family,
The learning out of education,
The service out of patriotism,
The Golden Rule from rulers,
The nativity scene out of cities,
The civility out of behavior,
The refinement out of language,
The dedication out of employment,
The prudence out of spending,
The ambition out of achievement, or,
God out of government and school.

And we certainly are NOT the ones who eliminated patience and tolerance from personal relationships and interactions with others!!

The Dating Coach will show you how to put the magic back into dating, and finding your dream partner. 817-741-7223, sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Suddenly he quits calling

FROM THE MAILBAG:

i have been using a dating website now for sometime and i have met some super guys, and i have met one just recently that met all my list. when we met for lunch, it was so great we had dinner and then went to a movie. then the next night he calls to go out again. (i didn't call him or txt msg, like you said, just let him do it.) then he asked me over to his place for dinner sat. and now i'm worrying maybe this is too much cos he txt msgs all day and night. then it all stopped. i call him and he says he has really busy week. i haven't heard from him for a week. it's confusing. what do i do next?

Shilo

FROM THE DATING COACH: Can't tell what's going on with this guy, but it just doesn't work to go "too much too soon." Maybe he got ahead of himself.

Keep your early dates short and sweet. (It's up to the ladies to end the date! Do so politely and sweetly, but an hour or so is enough for the first time.) Lunch and then dinner in one day is for sure too much too soon. Save something for next time!

My advice to Shilo is to wait and see. Do not contact him. If he does call, slow the pace down. Don't be so available. Why? Because that's what works. Relationships need to build slowly. So guys, pace it that way. And gals, if he isn't, then you do it. Don't need to explain it, just do it!

Wishing you the love of your life and here to help you find it!

Susan Dunn, M.A.
Dating Coach
sdunn@susandunn.cc

Call me for coaching. Why leave romance to chance??

Dating Coach

I know how it is -- you've been looking for ages, had some dates that didn't work out, and some dates that really didn't work out ... and suddenly he/she appears. You are so excited!

But remember, everyone's got 'nerves' ...

From the emailbag:

Sultan writes: "I knew she the one for me. So I didn't call a
lot. I wanted to slow the pace."

Merita writes: It's like I wanted to always save something for next
time. I took it easy and honest to gosh, it really worked out."

Pacing is everything. Nancy Fenn wrote that Gabriel Garcia Marquez quotes Simon Bolivar as saying, “There is no mistake in courtship which can be made up for.”

So take it slow, get some coaching, and keep the faith! They're looking for you just as hard as you are looking for them.