Dating Coach - Focus Group Results

Are you looking for a partner online?





As a Dating Coach, I'm always gathering new information. I had a Focus Group the other day to find out more. We talked, got online, and I took notes! From actual men and women who are currently on numerous dating sites, I found out the following:





MEN

• Men go to the photo, and back to the photo, and back to the photo.


• They say they read the profile, but they skim itr.


• If it's more than a paragraph, they get irritated.


• Research says the ideal length is about 100 words


• If men "run to type," it is something more than hair color. Men's lists of favorites contained blonds, brunettes and red heads. I could 'glom on' to a "type" but it was subtle. Things more like serious, or fun, or warm, or friendly, or romboy, or classy


• They are truly puzzled by most of the emails they receive. They say they don't know what to do.


• Many, especially men of action, like to write -- Here's my phone number. Call me.


• They don't like to read anything about exes, former bad treatment, or anything negative


• If the woman has no full length photo, they say "something's wrong" and move on.


• From their emails I read, women don't send a lot of 'canned' emails.


• Men refuse to get on a site and look at other guy's profiles, so they miss some information about the competition.
  
• They do the research - they check to see if the woman has looked at their profile or read their email.

WOMEN

• Women read the profile carefully. They don't mind a couple of paragraphs, but a full page is a turnoff.


• They're turned off by men who write emails only telling about themselves and what they like to do. They like a few questions to answer - like it were a give-and-take conversation.


• They are turned off when there are only interests such as hunting, go-karting, car auctions, target shooting, fishing. Especially if there is only one interest listed like (true example) - driving my new car.


• Women carefully look over the entire photograph. They are turned off by junk in the background, bare chests, photos of the man in a bar with a woman draped over his shoulder, unshaven or sloppy clothes, shots they take of themselves with their cell phone aimed at the bathroom mirror.


• They like to see a photo of the guy's house - but it better have a well-manicured yard and no junk or car parts on the patio.


• They are puzzled by the emails they receive.


• They prefer the guy ask them for their phone number.


• Manners matter a lot.


• Women can tell when they've gotten a 'canned' email - same one sent to 100 women.


• Women often peruse the profiles of other women to get information about the competition, and better ideas for writing!
  
• Yes women are really turned off by bad spelling and grammar.

Timing is a problem for both genders. Why hasn't he written me back? Remember that some people are at a computer all day long, while others might only check once a week.

Your profile matters. Let me help you shape up your profile. There is someone for you out there, lets make your profile more appealing. I also help interpret email responses and help you write better ones, ones that work.

The Dating Coach, Susan Dunn. That's what I do. I work with clients all over the U. S.