How to Know if He's Really Interested in You

Ladies (and gentlemen), here's the bottom line, and I don't need to tell you this, I just am REMINDING you of this:

If you like it then you shoulda put a ring on it. Period.

Let me show you how to make this happen. I've helped many men and women get it together in today's crazy dating world.



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Steve Harvey on How to Get the Man to Marry You

ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE MAN
My favorite - ladies you'll 'get' this one -

At your job, didn't you have the 90-day rule before benefits??

Notes from the interview with Steve Harvey, author of "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man"

Do you have standards for your man?
I can do with you what I
want because you have no standards.
When you saw her you had a plan, you
just haven't informed her what it is.
Right now we're just kickin' it.
There's a cute way to give an ultimatum.
Exact your standards and get
them out early.

A man who loves you will do the 3 Ps:
Profess -
within 6 months you'll have a title from a man (my girlfriend, love, my
fiancee)
Provide - Give you and the kids the money
Protect - No bill
collecter can call and harass you
One of the 3 isn't enough

Will you
be thrown back or are you a keeper??

And, ladies ...

It took him 6 months to think about "the ultimatum".
and she had to walk out first

(PSST!! WHAT HAVE I BEEN TELLING YOU ALL ALONG?)

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How Do You Get Him to Marry You

How do you get him to marry you?



As a Dating Coach, I've worked with a lot of women who were looking for a husband. They may be in different stages of a relationship, but the big question is, "How do I get him to MARRY me?"

A client writes: He moved in about 6 months ago. I don't understand why he won't marry me. I cook all his meals, do his clothes, take care of his kids when he has to work on the weekend and it's his weekend to have them. I've even entertained his mother when she was in town. The sex is great. I just don't get it. He won't even pay half the utility bill or pay for part of the groceries. Why won't he marry me?

The Dating Coach answers: Why would he?

It used to be called "don't give the cow away with the milk." In the situation this woman writes about, she is behaving like a wife in all aspects, so what is the incentive for this man to marry her.

Men who are looking for marriage will usually NOT move in with the woman. They behave differently.

• How do you tell what man is "the marrying kind" and what man isn't?
• How do you know when to cut your losses and move on?
• How can you set it up from the beginning so that if he loves you, marriage will be on his mind?
• How can you attract the kind of man who marries?
• What's the difference between romance, an affair, and dating for marriage?

Let me guide you and be your Dating Coach.

eMail me at sdunn@susandunn.cc and let's talk. Dating is more complicated than it ever has been. I'm here to help.

Do not choose your wife at a dance

This one is for the guys. The Czech proverb above say "Do not choose your wife at a dance, but in the field among the harvesters." Another proverb is that men fall is love with their eyes ... which is fine, but that is not a good reason to choose a partner for marriage. For Proverbs of the World go to www.susandunn.cc and click the link on the left.

Ah, but you say, we don't plow fields any more, or I don't live in Czechloslovakia, so so what?

Why "in the field among the harvesters" in the year 2008, in the US, the UK, or the Ukraine? Because marriage involves a lot of work. Children to raise, houses to care for, someone to pull the load with you, careers to build, degrees to attain, retirements to fund.

Ah, but that's just for young folks, you say?

We know better than that. When you are choosing later in life, it isn't time to think "retirement" and choose a playmate to go off on your yacht with you. There are illnesses, crucial problems with kids, finances to rearrange, declining health, and more work. Even the yacht has to be taken care of and funded.

Yes, you've saved the last dance for her, and she, for you, but think a little.

As a wise young man named Chester once told me, "Scenery gets old. No matter how good it is."

And as an older, sadder-but-wiser client told me the other day, as he searches again, "If only she had been as beautiful on the inside as she was on the outside."

If you are building a life together, it involves work. Choose your wife in a field ...

Let me help you find the partner of your dreams and of your reality. The Dating Coach is here to help you.

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Who Took the Courtship Out of Dating for Marriage?

From the mail bag today. Let's take a look at what it's saying.

When we are dating, we are trying to return many of these behaviors, because they worked. In fact, we might add there,

Who took the courtship out of dating for marriage??

The blog is about seniors, but we could just say

"WHO TOOK ..."

The melody out of music,
The pride out of appearance,
The courtesy out of driving,
The romance out of love,
The commitment out of marriage,
The responsibility out of parenthood,
The togetherness out of the family,
The learning out of education,
The service out of patriotism,
The Golden Rule from rulers,
The nativity scene out of cities,
The civility out of behavior,
The refinement out of language,
The dedication out of employment,
The prudence out of spending,
The ambition out of achievement, or,
God out of government and school.

And we certainly are NOT the ones who eliminated patience and tolerance from personal relationships and interactions with others!!

The Dating Coach will show you how to put the magic back into dating, and finding your dream partner. 817-741-7223, sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Suddenly he quits calling

FROM THE MAILBAG:

i have been using a dating website now for sometime and i have met some super guys, and i have met one just recently that met all my list. when we met for lunch, it was so great we had dinner and then went to a movie. then the next night he calls to go out again. (i didn't call him or txt msg, like you said, just let him do it.) then he asked me over to his place for dinner sat. and now i'm worrying maybe this is too much cos he txt msgs all day and night. then it all stopped. i call him and he says he has really busy week. i haven't heard from him for a week. it's confusing. what do i do next?

Shilo

FROM THE DATING COACH: Can't tell what's going on with this guy, but it just doesn't work to go "too much too soon." Maybe he got ahead of himself.

Keep your early dates short and sweet. (It's up to the ladies to end the date! Do so politely and sweetly, but an hour or so is enough for the first time.) Lunch and then dinner in one day is for sure too much too soon. Save something for next time!

My advice to Shilo is to wait and see. Do not contact him. If he does call, slow the pace down. Don't be so available. Why? Because that's what works. Relationships need to build slowly. So guys, pace it that way. And gals, if he isn't, then you do it. Don't need to explain it, just do it!

Wishing you the love of your life and here to help you find it!

Susan Dunn, M.A.
Dating Coach
sdunn@susandunn.cc

Call me for coaching. Why leave romance to chance??