The Acid Test of a Good Man to Marry

The acid test of a good man to marry?

Well, watch this video by Daniel Goleman, who wrote "Emotional Intelligence," on Why Aren't We All Good Samaritans? (when we are wired to be) ... in it he talks about a woman who had a simple Dating Test: From the moment they were together, how long did it take the guy to ask her a question using the word "you."

The man she married did is almost immediately.

See video here:

What She Means When She Says ...

NINE WORDS WOMEN USE

(1) Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when you are right and you need to shut up.

(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome'. that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8) Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F--- YOU!

(9) Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

For dating coaching, email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .

When He's Too Immature to Be Dating

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From today's mailbag:





Q: I met this guy about a year ago and really fell for him. We had a date. He told me how much he liked me. Then I went over to this guy's house, but nothing happened. Maybe he thought it did and got jealous. Now this guy got mean. He ignores me if I try and talk to him. He says nasty things about me to my friends. Why would he behave this way? What did I do wrong? I really liked this guy.





A: The bottom line here is that this guy is not ready for a relationship. He is too immature.

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Dating Coaching

How do you find the right man or woman for you?

My dating coaching is intensely PRACTICAL. There are things that work and things that don't.

Here are just a few that apply to anyone who truly wants to find their partner:

1. You have to have a strategy, a plan. I work with you individually on this. You may live on a farm in Idaho, or you may live in a penthouse in New York, or on Perdido Bay in Alabama. But wherever you live there are places to meet members of the opposite sex, and there is also the Internet.


2. You must get active.


3. You must put consistent effort into it. No matter where you live, no one is going to come and knock on your door and say, “Here I am.”


4. You must persevere. Know that word? It means you don’t give up. It’s already taken too long, but once you find that person, you will forget all about how long it took; except that you’ll value them even more. Don’t go out once or twice, or join one Internet site for 6 months and then give up. I won’t let you!


5. Get yourself in shape! (Let me work with you on this.) If you need a new haircut, a new wardrobe, to lose a few pounds, to clean out your car, or spruce up your house/apartment, do it!


6. Same with attitude. Ask yourself, “Would you date you if you were someone else??”


7. Cut people some slack. In most cases an email or two or a date or two is not enough to really get to know someone. The whole thing is to get to know the other person - over time and in different circumstances. Anyone who tells you they don’t get nervous is lying. Remember - I’ve coached and listened to hundreds of people.


8. AND learn who to eliminate quickly. Time is of the essence! Also your safety and your heart. I will teach you how to recognize these. When it happens, move on. And don’t dwell if someone you liked doesn’t return the favor. Move on!!


9. Remember your manners. If you need to brush up on your social graces and etiquette, we will. They work. Call to confirm dates. Show up on time. Apologize if you must cancel. Be polite. Use nice language. You only get one chance to make a first impression.


10. Be fun, but watch the humor. Humor is very tricky. Get to know the person a little bit first or sure enough you’ll tell a joke about a dumb Black Lab, and they’ll own and love one (for instance).


11. Keep the conversation give-and-take. Learn how to "make" good conversation If you're a woman, re-read my list of things men don't like to talk about. If you're a guy, remember women like to talk! Don't talk about yourself the whole time. (Some people tend to do this when they get nervous.) Ask the other person questions. Avoid past relationships, war stories, etc. Listen actively. Show an interest in their lives and what they’re talking about.


12. Exes are “ex” or you’re not ready to be dating.

Most of all, please don’t make that first date like a job interview or a deposition!!

Let me brief you before that important first date -- and the next one, which you'll be sure to have with the right guy and the right dating coach.

That important dating conversation

Plentyoffish posted a list of what men don't like to talk about on a date.

Here it is:

1. Past relationships
2. Other dates
3. Celebrities
4. Religion
5. Politics
6. Antiques
7. Money
8. Fashion
9. Gardening
10. Marriage

So what DO they like to talk about? With appropriate humor, here's a list:

1. Themselves
2. Practical matters (new computer, how to fix a car)
   
3. Their achievements
4. Their problems
5. Business
6. Sex
7. Sports
8. Jokes, playing one-up and boasting
9. Television and movies
10. What's right in front of you - the crowd, the bad waiter, the great parking
11. The weather

Let's face it - we know men don't like to talk about feelings, don't talk half as much as women, and love to talk about themselves.

For tips on conversation topics, email me. Set up a coaching session before that important first date and things will go well!