He Wants to See Your Face; She Wants to See Your Bank Statement

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Q: This guy on millionairematch.com called, and we got along great. Then he emailed me and said he wanted to see photos of my face - and current. I was really insulted. I sent him a recent headshot, and then asked him to send me a photo of his second house in Malibu. I haven't heard back from him. I've really work to be in great shape. People tell me I'm beautiful, I'm slender, and I look decades younger than my real age. I intend to marry a wealthy man. Not for the dumb reason that I watched The Hills and Gossip Girl, but because it's part of who I am. I've never dated a guy making less than 6 figures. Because I'm used to wealth and because rich guys are smart, educated, sophisticated, and have good self-esteem. It's part of my history and my lifestyle. What can I do without being rude?

A: Let's define 'wealthy guy', where to find them, how to get one, ETC.

"Ten Things You Need to Know if You Want to Marry a Rich Guy"
by Susan Dunn, Dating Coach

Let's begin with a dose of emotional intelligence (EQ). Why? Wealthy men have it all together, and they're looking for the same in a woman - someone with social graces and inner beauty as well as the outer panache. They also can ferret out a gold-digger like any prey knows its predator. If you're JUST after a guy for his money, it won't happen. If you see it as part of the package that you are looking for, and love the man as well as his deeds (for the two cannot be separated), it will work.

From Fascinating Facts about Rich Guys

1. The Tax Foundation Group in Washington DC defines "rich man" as someone earning $104,000 or more. (Reference, Fascinating Facts about Rich Guys) I'd up that quite a bit, wouldn't you?

2. How about making more than $1 million annually. Well the good news is ther are 9.5 million people earning at least that, and 94,970 are pulling in at least $30 million each year. (from Fascinating Facts)

3. It isn't just doctors and lawyers any more, though you need to look at type preference. A doctor or lawyer is likely to be more 'professional' in the old sense, more conservative, well-educated in the liberal arts sense, their career trajectory is fairly predictable and proscribed, and perhaps they're second-generation wealthy. On the other hand, these days a lot of men have made their wealth on the Internet, or managing hedge funds, or other more creative enterpreneur-type work. One man we know had made a million before he was 30, with his own software company, was bought out in a hostile takeover, and then decided to get his formal education and went to Oxford. Now he's an entrepreneur again. Can you follow that? Get ready for the ride.

Here are some of the "new rich," from the article:

Mark Zuckerberg, 23, founder of Facebook...$1.5 billion
Andrew Gower, 29, founder of Runescape...$216 million
Chad Hurley, 30, cofounder of You Tube...$300 million
Andrew Michael, 29, founder of FastHosts...$87 million

But this is chicken feed compared to the more mature rich men, who made their money the old-fashioned way. From Forbes:

Warren Buffet, investor - $62 billion
Helú Slim, wireless telephone - $60 billion - and girls, he's widower
Lakshmi Mittal, in steel - $45 billion
Mukesh Ambani, petrochemicals - $43 billion
Anil Ambani, industrialist, brother of the above - $40 billion
Ingvar Kamprad , Ikea - $31 billion
KP Singh, real estate - $30 billion
Oleg Deripaska, metals - $28 billion
Karl Albrecht, grocery stores - $20 billion

4. Rich guys travel. On business and for pleasure. And they out. Beef. They expect the best of everything ... what else is money for? So put yourself in hotel bars and upscale steak houses where they serve prime Angus. Visit the bar first, because they will.

5. Go where they live. And where do they live?

The research firm Teasley ranked the following United States cities as having the best ratio of rich, single men to women.

1. San Francisco Bay area
2. Anchorage, Alaska
3. Washington, D.C./Baltimore
4. Sheboygan, Wisconsin
5. Naples, Florida
6. Minneapolis/Saint Paul
7. Rochester, Minnesota
8. Boston
9. Fort Walton Beach, Florida
10. Dallas

6. Forget it if you're really a gold-digger. How does a gold-digger act? Come on, we all know. Rich men are pursued by "gold-diggers," and they know the signs, like any prey knows its predator. You can't fake it, so get real about what you want and WHY. If you're a gold-digger, you won't get a rich man. That's just the way it is. Karma, doncha know.

7. Know what goes with what. According to studies, rich men do more porn on the Internet, have more sex and more partners, and about 1/3rd of them are members of the mile-high club. Also, rich men give women more orgasms.

8. What they expect? That you're beautiful (to them) is a given. You are also EXPECTED to be sophisticated, gracious, well-bred and educated, and to be able to plan social schedules.

9. Be smart. In the emotional intelligence (EQ) way, and also in the IQ/educated way. 89% of rich men want to marry a woman who is their intellectual equal, or smart than them. They don't have a self-esteem problem. Many want their woman to have a high-profile career of her own.

10. Be brunette. Huh? According to the article:

Blond is reputed to be the sexiest hair color, but according to a survey by Lycos, 62 percent of the world’s top 100 billionaires’ wives and girlfriends are brunettes. What’s still unclear: whether these rich men seek out darker-haired women or if there are just more of them out there (fair hair is rarer).

11. Be looking for Polo Ralph Lauren, Calvin Klein, Armani, Coach or Burberry. Most popular threads with rich men? Polo Ralph Lauren.