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Susan Dunn, M.A., The Dating Coach

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First used services: 2006 (multiple times)

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Who is Michael Phelps Dating?

What if you read a dating profile where the man listed for his "interests:"

I’ve got a pretty quiet life. It’s kinda boring. I haven’t got a girlfriend and I can’t do the kind of things all my friends are doing as college students. I swim, listen to hip hop and work on my car.

Think you might pass him up as "boring"? Think again! This is attributed to Michael Phelps spreadit.org Yes, indeed, he "swims."

A lot of men doing interesting and serious things with their lives won't list a lot of interests. Actually, I've talked to 100s of men and women and helped them write and re-write their profiles and a big one is "interests."

From Kareena:

What am I supposed to put for interests? What did I do today?
Listened to come classical music, cleaned house, went over to have dinner with
my son and family and took 3 client calls. What would I do if I had a
neat guy in my life?? That's a totally other thing.

Does Michael have a girlfriend? He's been linked to swimmer Amanda Beard, who denied it; and to supermodel Lily Donaldson, who also denied dating him. Lately he's been linked to gold medal winning swimmer Stephanie Rise.

True?

According to Game On , Phelps always replies:

• Part of my life is kept to myself. I'm able to relax and be with my friends. Those pretty much are the only people who really know the answer to that.
  
  
  Well, the Dating Coach has to say, that the gentleman's response. Used to be that a gentleman didn't "kiss and tell." That's not a bad idea!
  
  Recommendation when your date asks you about previous dates, partners, spouses and exes -- that it be kept to a minimum and that you practice with me suitable responses. After all, it's "history" isn't it? Or you wouldn't be a very attractive date prospect.
  
  Let me work with you on responses to the "trick" questions. That's what Dating Coaching is all about.
  
  If you want a second date, or even second email, it matters how you answer questions ... and also how you ask them.
  
  Favorite woman's profile comment seen this week:
  
  Q: What's your idea of a great first date?
  A: Anything as long as it doesn't feel like a job interview!!!
  
  Answer to "interests"? Ladies and gentlemen, if it's hard for you to write, it's hard for them to write. Give people a long lead until you get a "deal breaker." Kareena tells me she'd love to go to the Galapagos Island, if she had someone to go with. That's a far cry from listening to music and visiting with family!
  
  Photo: wikipedia, common domain

Where to take a date for dinner

MEZZA LUNA, Dallas area (Keller)

What a lovely view. Notice the piano area.

There is piano playing on the weekends. The tasteful floral arrangements. That perfect shade of (celadon??) on the walls, wall and crown molding, with the black ceiling, the white tablecloths. Nothing "franchise" about this place at all.

We're back at Mezza Luna, in Dallas to give you an idea of a wonderful place to take a date for dinner when you're getting to know each other.

We suggest that you not take 15 women to "Starbucks on 377" (women can smell this out, let me tell you), but rather learn (that's what coaching is for) how to discriminate down to a few that really have potential, and then treat them right. Take them out for a nice dinner. Not a huge place, fussy, franchise, noisy, or that screams "I'm insecure".

Mezza Luna features beautifully framed pieces of great art. Dante Gabriel Rosetti is a favorite of mine. Pure romance and class. The lighting is just right. One white candle and a small bouquet of crimson flowers on the tables which have white tablecloths.

The decor is what a woman would consider just right, just romantic enough without being "overkill." And gentleman, there's a great steakhouse down the road which I won't name (and I love their prime rib) that's great for the guys and the food is fantastic, and IT features a wall length mural of James Dean a la GIANT. This might just give you the clue that IT is the perfect place for a BUSINESS dinner.

ABOUT THAT PERFECT DATING RESTAURANT

We're back again at Mezza Luna, in Keller, Tx. (20 mins. from DFW). I know readers of my blog and my dating coach clients live all over the world, but I want you to consider this as an example.

There is a beautiful entryway. Behind the door, between it and the front door is a nice little area where you can wait for your date. There is a bar area, but a lady on her own will probably wish to avoid this.

It all comes together there at Mezza Luna - understated is an important word. Just the right size. The white tableclothes. Nothing franchise. You have to hunt a little to find it, which means you're either a man who knows the town, or you did a little work, both of which women appreciate. And it is just romantic enough. Tasteful.

There are enough options on the menu to suit anyone's taste, and the prices are reasonable. The owner has been there every time I've been there (I take everyone there), and he'll quickly be greeting you, which makes a nice impression.

And I can't help saying, as all the newspaper writeups do -- Don't miss the tiramisu. It's perfecto!

Usain Bolt had a coach, do you

Usain Bolt had Coaching ... Do You?
Coaching isn't just for athletes any more, it's for dating!!

The Olympics news tell us that Usain Bolt has broken a world record, something no one has done before.

The Yahoo teaser continues that Bolt is the first man to break the world marks in both sprints at an olympics. Not even Jesse Owens did this ... we would have thought it impossible.

This reminds me of a woman who called me for Dating Coach several months ago, told me a little about herself, and then added, "I bet you've never had such a hard sell before."

Fast forward - This woman is now dating a wonderful man, after 3 months of coaching with me.

ABOUT COACHING

Since I'm a coach, I went to wikipedia and tried to find out about Usain Bolt's coaches. Wikipedia says,

"Under the guidance of new coach Fitz Coleman, Bolt turned professional in 2004,beginning with the CARIFTA games in Bermuda....He became the first junior
sprinter to run the 200 metres in under 20 seconds, breaking Roy Martin' world
junior record by two tenths of a second with 19.93 seconds.

The following year, 2005, signalled a fresh start for Bolt in the form of a new coach, Glen Mills and a new attitude to athletics. Mills recognised Bolt's potential andaimed to cease the sprinter's unprofessional approach to the sport. TheJamaican surprised even himself with the time but coach Glen Mills remained confident there was more to come. Mills' prediction came true before the end ofthe month when Bolt established a new 100 metres world record in May. He then encouraged Bolt to try the 100.

This is what coaches do! One thing I did for sure with the female client mentioned above is give her a total new ATTITUDE toward dating. That's because I've done a lot of dating coaching, and seen the successes. I KNEW there was a man out there looking for this woman, and that a change of attitude was in order.

One thing is that she tried once or twice and then gave up. What would've happened if Bolt had done that? If his coach had let him do that?

Dating coaching is all about attitude, strategy, and what works and what doesn't, from years of experience.

Let me help you find the mate of your dreams.

Photo: wikipedia commons, author Eckhard Pecher (Arcimboldo)

Is he/she emotionally available?

And if you try to close your heart to them, you will grossly limit your life, happiness, success, and ability to connect with others.

From the emailbag today:

Dear Dating Coach,

This is what he wrote me. What do you think?

Sandra, I don't know who you think you are to patronize me like
that.

All I did was express sympathy at the death of his wife, right after he
filed for divorce. I mean that's got to be rough.

This man is not available emotionally for a relationship.

It's the law of emotions (like physics) that if you stuff down one emotion, you stuff them all down.

There are people attempting to date online that simply are not ready because they have not dealt with "baggage."

Let me help you identify them quickly, so that you don't waste your time. We bless them, and hope for their healing, but it is roller coaster to try and get involved with someone who has not processed a divorce or death or breakup, or other major lif event, for that matter.

Refer them to me for coaching! :-) (in my other field, emotional intelligence)

The EQ COURSE will help you understand how emotions/feelings work and what you can do about it. Many people call it "the missing piece."

I love emotional intelligence. It's my passion. Let me share it with you! email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc and let's get to work!

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What restaurant is right for the first date

WHERE TO TAKE HER ON YOUR FIRST DATE


Today I did reviewed a local restaurant called Mezza Luna in Keller Tx (between Dallas and Fort Worth) that I think is an excellent place to take a woman for a first date.


I don't recommend inviting 16 women a week to meet you at Starbucks. This is like emailing "flirts" or those canned messages. Why not be discriminating, choose those who really appeal to you, for all the right reasons, and give it a good start and make a good impression by taking them to dinner. But not a chain restaurant! That's the ":-)" thing again. Show that you are discriminating. That's what a woman is looking for.


Why do I recommend this one:

• It is easy to get to, and to find. Off 1709, a major thoroughfare, one that's easy to drive, and one that is about midway between Dallas and Ft. Worth.



• It is in a wide, designer type 'strip' center, where the building stands higher than any others there, and the name is on it. Again, easy to find. It stands out.



• There is plenty of parking and no garage to have to mess with.



• When you walk in, there is a real foyer entrance. This sets a nice tone, and there are chairs if the lady should have to wait.



• It is open from 11 am to 10 pm, which gives you wide latitude ... early lunch, lunch, late lunch, cocktails and heavy hors d'oeuvres, dinner, late dinner ...



• There is a pianist there who plays on the weekends. This is a lovely touch as you can request something meaningful, or simply beautiful. I always ask for O Sole Mio. If you know the lyrics of this great Neapolitan love song, well it's what we all want in our love ...roughly translated ... "It's my own sun that's in your face! The sun, my own sun! It's in your face!



• Ask for a table farthest from the piano though, so it isn't too loud for conversation.



• It has white tablecloths. Need I say more? There is a white candle on the table.



• It is quiet enough to be romantic if you like, and to be able to talk; without being intimidating or overdone or "too" elegant for early dating.



• The food is excellent AND is reasonably priced. It somehow makes the right impression. Taking a woman out for a $50 steak is somehow overkill.



• The service is good. You should not have to worry about that.
  
• Like Goldilocks, it's not too big, it's not too small, it's just right.
  
• The menu is Italian, but not so much it knocks you over the head.
  
• And lastly, what smells better than entering an Italian restaurant??

Find a restaurant that sets this kind of tone - Excellent and understated, with those white tablecloths! And where the location is not stressful. This allows you to devote your attention to the important part - getting to know each other.

Do not choose your wife at a dance

This one is for the guys. The Czech proverb above say "Do not choose your wife at a dance, but in the field among the harvesters." Another proverb is that men fall is love with their eyes ... which is fine, but that is not a good reason to choose a partner for marriage. For Proverbs of the World go to www.susandunn.cc and click the link on the left.

Ah, but you say, we don't plow fields any more, or I don't live in Czechloslovakia, so so what?

Why "in the field among the harvesters" in the year 2008, in the US, the UK, or the Ukraine? Because marriage involves a lot of work. Children to raise, houses to care for, someone to pull the load with you, careers to build, degrees to attain, retirements to fund.

Ah, but that's just for young folks, you say?

We know better than that. When you are choosing later in life, it isn't time to think "retirement" and choose a playmate to go off on your yacht with you. There are illnesses, crucial problems with kids, finances to rearrange, declining health, and more work. Even the yacht has to be taken care of and funded.

Yes, you've saved the last dance for her, and she, for you, but think a little.

As a wise young man named Chester once told me, "Scenery gets old. No matter how good it is."

And as an older, sadder-but-wiser client told me the other day, as he searches again, "If only she had been as beautiful on the inside as she was on the outside."

If you are building a life together, it involves work. Choose your wife in a field ...

Let me help you find the partner of your dreams and of your reality. The Dating Coach is here to help you.

DATING FOR SUCCESS SEMINAR IN DALLAS, Saturday, October 28, 10 am - 5 pm. Led by Dating coach and emotional intelligence expert, Susan Dunn, M.A. Beautiful facilities located 20 minutes from DFW airport. Email sdunn@susandunn.cc for information and pre-register at a discounted fee.