Who Took the Courtship Out of Dating for Marriage?

From the mail bag today. Let's take a look at what it's saying.

When we are dating, we are trying to return many of these behaviors, because they worked. In fact, we might add there,

Who took the courtship out of dating for marriage??

The blog is about seniors, but we could just say

"WHO TOOK ..."

The melody out of music,
The pride out of appearance,
The courtesy out of driving,
The romance out of love,
The commitment out of marriage,
The responsibility out of parenthood,
The togetherness out of the family,
The learning out of education,
The service out of patriotism,
The Golden Rule from rulers,
The nativity scene out of cities,
The civility out of behavior,
The refinement out of language,
The dedication out of employment,
The prudence out of spending,
The ambition out of achievement, or,
God out of government and school.

And we certainly are NOT the ones who eliminated patience and tolerance from personal relationships and interactions with others!!

The Dating Coach will show you how to put the magic back into dating, and finding your dream partner. 817-741-7223, sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Suddenly he quits calling

FROM THE MAILBAG:

i have been using a dating website now for sometime and i have met some super guys, and i have met one just recently that met all my list. when we met for lunch, it was so great we had dinner and then went to a movie. then the next night he calls to go out again. (i didn't call him or txt msg, like you said, just let him do it.) then he asked me over to his place for dinner sat. and now i'm worrying maybe this is too much cos he txt msgs all day and night. then it all stopped. i call him and he says he has really busy week. i haven't heard from him for a week. it's confusing. what do i do next?

Shilo

FROM THE DATING COACH: Can't tell what's going on with this guy, but it just doesn't work to go "too much too soon." Maybe he got ahead of himself.

Keep your early dates short and sweet. (It's up to the ladies to end the date! Do so politely and sweetly, but an hour or so is enough for the first time.) Lunch and then dinner in one day is for sure too much too soon. Save something for next time!

My advice to Shilo is to wait and see. Do not contact him. If he does call, slow the pace down. Don't be so available. Why? Because that's what works. Relationships need to build slowly. So guys, pace it that way. And gals, if he isn't, then you do it. Don't need to explain it, just do it!

Wishing you the love of your life and here to help you find it!

Susan Dunn, M.A.
Dating Coach
sdunn@susandunn.cc

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Dating Coach

I know how it is -- you've been looking for ages, had some dates that didn't work out, and some dates that really didn't work out ... and suddenly he/she appears. You are so excited!

But remember, everyone's got 'nerves' ...

From the emailbag:

Sultan writes: "I knew she the one for me. So I didn't call a
lot. I wanted to slow the pace."

Merita writes: It's like I wanted to always save something for next
time. I took it easy and honest to gosh, it really worked out."

Pacing is everything. Nancy Fenn wrote that Gabriel Garcia Marquez quotes Simon Bolivar as saying, “There is no mistake in courtship which can be made up for.”

So take it slow, get some coaching, and keep the faith! They're looking for you just as hard as you are looking for them.

Make Yourself Less Available

Sometimes I know ... you're so eager when you finally meet a man online that appeals to you, you go overboard. Sandrea did until we had some coaching. I've encouraged her not to fantasize, but to keep moving quickly. So, when Dreece called her once, said he'd call back (and weeks went by), and then didn't answer her email, she "blocked" him and got on with her life.

Guess what? Sandrea called me today and told me Dreece had called her. "You blocked me!" he said. He explained he'd been busy with family matters ... and repeated several times, "you blocked me! Why did you block me?"

Of course ladies, we don't answer questions like that!

He started hinting about coming to see her!

HINT: Make yourself less available. Let the man come find you. Never fear, if he's interested, he will.

For dating coaching, call me at 817-741-7223 or email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Here to help you find the Love of Your Life.