He Wants to See Your Face; She Wants to See Your Bank Statement

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Q: This guy on millionairematch.com called, and we got along great. Then he emailed me and said he wanted to see photos of my face - and current. I was really insulted. I sent him a recent headshot, and then asked him to send me a photo of his second house in Malibu. I haven't heard back from him. I've really work to be in great shape. People tell me I'm beautiful, I'm slender, and I look decades younger than my real age. I intend to marry a wealthy man. Not for the dumb reason that I watched The Hills and Gossip Girl, but because it's part of who I am. I've never dated a guy making less than 6 figures. Because I'm used to wealth and because rich guys are smart, educated, sophisticated, and have good self-esteem. It's part of my history and my lifestyle. What can I do without being rude?

A: Let's define 'wealthy guy', where to find them, how to get one, ETC.

"Ten Things You Need to Know if You Want to Marry a Rich Guy"
by Susan Dunn, Dating Coach

Let's begin with a dose of emotional intelligence (EQ). Why? Wealthy men have it all together, and they're looking for the same in a woman - someone with social graces and inner beauty as well as the outer panache. They also can ferret out a gold-digger like any prey knows its predator. If you're JUST after a guy for his money, it won't happen. If you see it as part of the package that you are looking for, and love the man as well as his deeds (for the two cannot be separated), it will work.

From Fascinating Facts about Rich Guys

1. The Tax Foundation Group in Washington DC defines "rich man" as someone earning $104,000 or more. (Reference, Fascinating Facts about Rich Guys) I'd up that quite a bit, wouldn't you?

2. How about making more than $1 million annually. Well the good news is ther are 9.5 million people earning at least that, and 94,970 are pulling in at least $30 million each year. (from Fascinating Facts)

3. It isn't just doctors and lawyers any more, though you need to look at type preference. A doctor or lawyer is likely to be more 'professional' in the old sense, more conservative, well-educated in the liberal arts sense, their career trajectory is fairly predictable and proscribed, and perhaps they're second-generation wealthy. On the other hand, these days a lot of men have made their wealth on the Internet, or managing hedge funds, or other more creative enterpreneur-type work. One man we know had made a million before he was 30, with his own software company, was bought out in a hostile takeover, and then decided to get his formal education and went to Oxford. Now he's an entrepreneur again. Can you follow that? Get ready for the ride.

Here are some of the "new rich," from the article:

Mark Zuckerberg, 23, founder of Facebook...$1.5 billion
Andrew Gower, 29, founder of Runescape...$216 million
Chad Hurley, 30, cofounder of You Tube...$300 million
Andrew Michael, 29, founder of FastHosts...$87 million

But this is chicken feed compared to the more mature rich men, who made their money the old-fashioned way. From Forbes:

Warren Buffet, investor - $62 billion
Helú Slim, wireless telephone - $60 billion - and girls, he's widower
Lakshmi Mittal, in steel - $45 billion
Mukesh Ambani, petrochemicals - $43 billion
Anil Ambani, industrialist, brother of the above - $40 billion
Ingvar Kamprad , Ikea - $31 billion
KP Singh, real estate - $30 billion
Oleg Deripaska, metals - $28 billion
Karl Albrecht, grocery stores - $20 billion

4. Rich guys travel. On business and for pleasure. And they out. Beef. They expect the best of everything ... what else is money for? So put yourself in hotel bars and upscale steak houses where they serve prime Angus. Visit the bar first, because they will.

5. Go where they live. And where do they live?

The research firm Teasley ranked the following United States cities as having the best ratio of rich, single men to women.

1. San Francisco Bay area
2. Anchorage, Alaska
3. Washington, D.C./Baltimore
4. Sheboygan, Wisconsin
5. Naples, Florida
6. Minneapolis/Saint Paul
7. Rochester, Minnesota
8. Boston
9. Fort Walton Beach, Florida
10. Dallas

6. Forget it if you're really a gold-digger. How does a gold-digger act? Come on, we all know. Rich men are pursued by "gold-diggers," and they know the signs, like any prey knows its predator. You can't fake it, so get real about what you want and WHY. If you're a gold-digger, you won't get a rich man. That's just the way it is. Karma, doncha know.

7. Know what goes with what. According to studies, rich men do more porn on the Internet, have more sex and more partners, and about 1/3rd of them are members of the mile-high club. Also, rich men give women more orgasms.

8. What they expect? That you're beautiful (to them) is a given. You are also EXPECTED to be sophisticated, gracious, well-bred and educated, and to be able to plan social schedules.

9. Be smart. In the emotional intelligence (EQ) way, and also in the IQ/educated way. 89% of rich men want to marry a woman who is their intellectual equal, or smart than them. They don't have a self-esteem problem. Many want their woman to have a high-profile career of her own.

10. Be brunette. Huh? According to the article:

Blond is reputed to be the sexiest hair color, but according to a survey by Lycos, 62 percent of the world’s top 100 billionaires’ wives and girlfriends are brunettes. What’s still unclear: whether these rich men seek out darker-haired women or if there are just more of them out there (fair hair is rarer).

11. Be looking for Polo Ralph Lauren, Calvin Klein, Armani, Coach or Burberry. Most popular threads with rich men? Polo Ralph Lauren.

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People in Love Are Blind to Pretty Faces

If your loved one claims to “only have eyes for you”

it might be truer than you think

Research shows that people in a committed relationship who have been thinking about their partner actually avert their eyes from attractive members of the opposite sex without even being aware they are doing it

it takes longer for viewers to shift their attention away from attrac­tive faces of the opposite sex.

subjects who were married

Those who wrote about love actually turned their attention away from attractive members of the opposite sex even more quickly

than they looked away from average-looking people

This unconscious attentional bias probably evolved to help men and women stay in monogamous relation­ships

in humans tend to have a reproductive advantage

These biases have been built into our psychology to enhance people’s reproductive success.”

Is She Affectionate?

HOW CAN YOU TELL WHAT IT'S LIKE WHEN YOU'RE STANDING OUTSIDE? That's what it's like when you read a woman's profile on an Internet dating site.

Here's a tip for the guys.

I know the way guys are ... I coach a lot of guys about dating, so I hear the stories. From a recent conversation:

She said she was cuddly and affectionate in her profile. That she liked to touch and all that. But she wasn't that way in person. Now I don't believe it when I read that on a profile. How are you supposed to know and what should you believe? It's a riddle to me.

THE ANSWER TO THE RIDDLE: Gentleman, ladies are not affectionate non-specifically and in general, with every man. Their response is to a particular man and how they feel about him. When a woman writes on her profile that she's warm and affectionate, or likes physical attention, or enjoys romance and love-making, she doesn't mean this will happen with every man she dates, just because it's a man and she's on a date. It means she will be that way if she happens to like you. If she doesn't, she isn't going to be physically affectionate toward you. Emotions and physical intimacy go together for a woman.

So there's no riddle to it. If she says she's that way, she means she's that way when she loves the man. If she isn't that way with you, it's because you aren't the man for her. And so it's best for you to look elsewhere, but also to believe what you read in their profiles. If she says she's affectionate, and you're the lucky man she falls in love with, you'll be smothered in kisses!

Do You Want to Date an Extrovert?

HOW TO FIND SOMEONE YOU CAN GET ALONG WITH

There are a lot more extroverts in the US than introverts, according to the Myers-Briggs people. So, in a world run by extroverts, introverts are often misunderstood. And vice versa!

Should and extrovert and an introvert date?

That's up to you, but it's good to know which you are, and which you prefer. A lot of times opposites DO attract. Although not everyone is this blunt, you will find hints on a person's profile. Here is one from one of the major online dating sites:

I am a personality whore. Alittle harsh? Definetly. I crave conversation and fun. If you think pouting and standing in the corner thinking you are too good for everyone is attractive we do not have anything in common.

Pardon his English. Extroverts get energy from being with other people (personalities). Generally they can't stand to be alone. Therefore they "crave" being with other people. Since introverts need time alone, they wouldn't understand this and might call it "pouting" or "thinking you're too good for everyone." They often look at introverts as "shy."

Every activity this person listed was people-oriented. No leisure-time pursuits like computer, learning, philosophy or reading. He prefers IM to email and likes phone or in-person even more.

Lots of signs he's an extrovert. It's good to know how to look for these things when you are dating online. Also good to let others know these things about you. Ask the Dating Coach - sdunn@susandunn.cc .