She just wanted a guy to pal around with

Overheard at the D.C. Dating Seminar I gave recently for singles 40 and over. (email me for the dates of the next ones - you don't want to miss out if you live in the D. C. area. Coaching also available by phone, email, and in my office)

Ladies, you need to get with me and learn THE RULES.
Here's what the guys said:

She's been married and has kids, but I felt like she just wanted a guy to pal around with.

She took me to a grand opening of her art work. We walked in and she ran over to meet all her friends. Just left me standing there. What am I, chopped liver?

Everyone keeps saying they met their partner on match.com. I guess online dating is the way to go. (I can tell you about the sites, what one's good for you, and help you write that important winning profile!)

She ran in the room, closed the door, and pinned me against the wall. (gasp!)

I came in the room and she was going through my desk drawers. Why do women do that?

She asked me to fix the antenna on her car. I fell in love immediately.

She always said to come and get her, she wasn't meeting me anywhere. I liked that a lot. It showed she respected herself.

She was beautiful. But more than that, she knew how to have a good conversation.

She just sat there for me to open the car door. Refreshing.

She demanded my best behavior.

Guys on a First Date

What to guys say they "always do" on a first date?

From "Best Bachelors", they asked the guys

ON A FIRST DATE I ALWAYS ...

Now I gotta say, if you asked a woman that, she'd probably reply "I always get nervous." But here's what these guys said. Note the action words, the "I" words:

Mario: "...give honest compliments."
Justin Bartha: "...pay. And on the second date and the third."
Chris Messina: "...try to kiss the girl. I like to close that on the first date."
David Cook: "...act like I know what I'm doing, even when I don't."
Gerard Butler: "Shave."

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In Dating there is Nothing Like an Obstacle

In dating, there is nothing like an obstacle. All great romance writers know this and use the same plot. Couple meets. There is an obstacle. There you have your story, and the ending is predictable and thrilling.

LADIES, IF YOU'RE DATING, FLOAT LIKE A BUTTERFLY, AND NEVER STING LIKE A BEE.

Obstacles when you were a teen:

Father
Curfew
No car
School
Homework

Obstacles you can present as an independent adult

Say your house is being renovated so he can't come inside (for a long, long time)
Say you can't do it - can't cook, clean, drive, txt
Say you don't know how (to ask a guy out)
Don't be accessible - don't sit by the phone/email, even if you are. ESPECIALLY if you are
Overtime
Italian lessons 3 nights a week
Sister visiting from out-of-town for a week
Family reunion scheduled a year ago
Bad boss
Cramps, headache, N1H1

Why? Don't deprive him of the thrill of the hunt. I have been a dating coach for years. There is no man, no matter how busy/shy/far away/encumbered/hurt/damaged by ex-wife - you fill in the blank - who won't move heaven and earth to have the woman he wants. And here is nothing like an "obstacle" to sweeten the pot.

Please note: This is NOT game-playing. COURTSHIP is the game, and, like it or not, you will play it. If you play by its instinctual, hard-wired rules, the results will be amazing!

How so? I have a client, I'll call her Paula, who just got her man. She tells me he mentions all the time that when he reminisces about their early dating days, how hard it was to drive all the way out to her house ... which he did, over and over again. Paula told him she couldn't put the miles on her car because it was old. Whatever it takes.

Dating coach in office (centrally located in DC, Chevy Chase), by phone or email. Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc to get started today.