Dating outside your culture

How do you choose a compatible mate?

I'm often asked about dating outside your culture (ethic group, etc.) This is tricky, as you know, or you wouldn't be asking. According to the Icerberg Theory of Culture, many things about cultured are deeply ingrained, but also 9/10ths of culture is our of conscious awareness.

Recall that the major precept of Emotional Intelligence is self-awareness. This means becoming conscious of many things, including what your "culture" is, what it dictates, and how much you are willing to bend.

Above the water, in the Iceberg theory are:
Fine Arts
Literature
Drama
Classical Music
Folk Dancing
Games
Cooking
Notions of Modesty
Conceptions of Beaty

Therefore, as we have said before, a great CLUE as to who you might get along with, is their taste in music.

However, below the surface are a myriad of things, including "Courtship Practices". Others are

Conversational patterns in various sdocial contexts
Netions of adolescense
Body language
Ordering of time
Facial expressions
Arrangements of physical space
Patterns of handling emotions
Preference for Competition or Cooperation
Ideals of governing
Child raising
Rules of descent
Relationship to animals
Cosmology
Patterns of Superior/Subordinate Behavior
Definitions of sin
Incentives to work
Notions of leadership
Tempo of work
THEORY OF DISEASE
Patterns of Group Decision-Making
Conception of Cleanliness
Concepton of Status Mobility
Approaches to problem-solving
Eye behavior
Conception of past and future

AND MUCH, MUCH MORE.

Check these out when you're dating. They are very important for compatibility.