Do not choose your wife at a dance

This one is for the guys. The Czech proverb above say "Do not choose your wife at a dance, but in the field among the harvesters." Another proverb is that men fall is love with their eyes ... which is fine, but that is not a good reason to choose a partner for marriage. For Proverbs of the World go to www.susandunn.cc and click the link on the left.

Ah, but you say, we don't plow fields any more, or I don't live in Czechloslovakia, so so what?

Why "in the field among the harvesters" in the year 2008, in the US, the UK, or the Ukraine? Because marriage involves a lot of work. Children to raise, houses to care for, someone to pull the load with you, careers to build, degrees to attain, retirements to fund.

Ah, but that's just for young folks, you say?

We know better than that. When you are choosing later in life, it isn't time to think "retirement" and choose a playmate to go off on your yacht with you. There are illnesses, crucial problems with kids, finances to rearrange, declining health, and more work. Even the yacht has to be taken care of and funded.

Yes, you've saved the last dance for her, and she, for you, but think a little.

As a wise young man named Chester once told me, "Scenery gets old. No matter how good it is."

And as an older, sadder-but-wiser client told me the other day, as he searches again, "If only she had been as beautiful on the inside as she was on the outside."

If you are building a life together, it involves work. Choose your wife in a field ...

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