Graboys' Life in the Balance

From a book review, A Doctor Transformed, Into a Patient, By ABIGAIL ZUGER, M.D., about the book, LIFE IN THE BALANCE A Physician's Memoir of Life, Love and Loss With Parkinson's Disease and Dementia. By Thomas Graboys, M.D., with Peter Zheutlin.

From the amazon book review, at age 49, Dr. Thomas Graboys seemed to have the world at his feet, living a charmed life. He was a nationally renowned Boston cardiologist "popular for his attention to the hearts and souls of his patients," married to a beautiful woman. Then his wife died of cancer, and he began to have physical symptoms he could not ignore. He collapsed on his wedding day to his second wife ...

From the review:

His reflections as a husband are more unusual. He courted his second wife while still ostensibly healthy, although privately he knew something was wrong. He writes candidly about this duplicity, and the complicated grief and anger that infuse their relationship now as she faces a future of caretaking far different from the one she signed up for.

Dating ... Duplicity ... things changing ... love and hate ... what you sign up for and what you get ... the things we can never anticipate ... what love is and what love requires ...

Dr. Zuger ends her review with:

This is the kind of book inevitably given to medical students to inculcate them in the humanistic dimensions of medicine. I wouldn't waste it on them. Save it for older doctors, still at the top of their game, gleaming and self-confident. Each of them could use this textbook of the graceful and courageous exit.

Our heart goes out to all ...

Susan Dunn, M.A., Dating Coach, 817-741-7223, sdunn@susandunn.cc

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