Let's face it. We've all had full lives, and a bit of this and a bit of that. And later on in a relationship, after you get to know one another, it's appropriate to share more about your lives.
Early on, you want to present yourself in the best light. Don't use early dates to talk about negative things about yourself. So you got fired from a job. Why bring it up? There's an explanation behind it, but that's for later on. Or you lost the plane tickets, or set the yard on fire when you were burning undergrowth, or you got lost in your new town and were driving the wrong way down the highway.
These are funny if someone knows you and knows these were one-time occurrences. But delivered just off-the-cuff, your date has nowhere to place them. Anecdotes like that can make you sound like a someone who is incompetent, unemployable, dangerous to live with, unstable, etc.
You're also the person who got an A+ on the certification exam, got emergency plane tickets for the family, has just gotten a promotion at work, and has never had a ticket!
Concentrate on the positives.
P.S. This applies to exes. We've all got them. You don't need to go into it. It's not something to get into early on.
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