It was too late, I had no choice

Feleeshia writes:

AN EMERGENCY PLEEEEZ HELP ME

From the other (non-private) blog, changed a bit for confidentiality):

Question: i met da guy in the apts where i live for school!!!when i first meet him we talk and we were cool he had lots of chiks in his town and i knew he was abad boy!!anyways he use to come ova so one day we dont know how it happened but we kiss sine than things have progreesed but i knew i wont have him because of his chiks anyways we started faving sex!!so than i realised that maybe he is just using me i told him so and he said that we are not going out we are just friends with benefits!!!i got upset but it was too late i was completely in love with him and i had no choice !!!

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The reality of the genders is that women often 'lose it' at this point, emotionally, while men do not necessarily. Smart girls wait until they know how the guy feels and make sure he is emotionally available before getting invested in the relationsthip.

She continues on for quite a while, and there is a lot of pain. This sort of suffering, letting yourself slop into something without knowing what's going , and the stressful and sad aftermath, can be avoided by putting off sex until you know what's going on.

Ladies, there is always a CHOICE. (Our freedom lies between the impulse and the action - check out THE EQ COURSE. <--- a wonderful investment in your future.)

If you let this happen once, it's for sure you won't do it again, because it feels awful.

The best cure is the prevention. Smart girls get Dating Coaches. They don't have to say "I don't know how it happened."